This is a question I always ask my clients when they register unto my coaching services.
This is also a question I had to ask myself, when coming to Christ! Am I willing to grow?
Are you willing to move forward? Are you willing to learn? Because the truth of the matter is, no one can help you unless you are willing to be helped. “Am I willing to stop thinking I have all the answers and listen to advice”.
Proverbs 13:10 Pride leads to conflict; those who take advice are wise.
The question I want to ask you is, do you like correction/instruction?
At one point in my life I can confidently say I did not like correction, I didn’t really like to be corrected. I suppose that was due to the constant attack I felt I was getting from my parents when I did something wrong. I would be replying them in my head “you don’t even understand” or “it is really not that deep”. I’ll never forget my second year of University, I was on The big Clash Game show, I was partying and enjoying. I remember I was always putting up dancing videos that would get 1000s of retweets on Twitter. I remember nearly every week my mum would WhatsApp me “what rubbish did you put on your twitter?” “why did you say this?” "What are you doing here?"
I didn’t understand why she was always asking me so many questions....
I would always reply back saying “no one else complained" "my friends thought it was fine"
clearly just my mum being extra...So i thought. However really and truly it was my mum displaying her true LOVE to me. Love in rebuke – because she could see my potential, unlike some friends who wouldn't really tell you the truth or are even in the same blinded state you were also in, to see anything different.
I felt like a celebrity, who was being watched by every move, every tweet and status.
My mum was my personal adviser making me remove everything I was putting out like it would hit the tabloids or something.
Proverbs 12:1 To learn you must love discipline; it is stupid to hate correction.
The funny thing is, now looking back at all the correction I was getting from my mum it was absolutely correct and needed. Looking back now, I can not see myself putting up such posts, on social media. I suppose that is due to a renewal of mind having coming fully to Christ. However sometimes, when you are in a place you can’t see much other than where you are now. It takes someone who has gone before you, who can show you what you may not be able to see.
Proverbs 10:17 People who accept discipline are on the pathway to life, but those who ignore correction will go astray.
So the question we want to ask now is HOW?
HOW can we accept discipline, when our natural self just wants to defend ourselves?
ASK GOD FOR WISDOM
Proverbs 10:8 – The wise are glad to be instructed while the babbling fools fall flat on their faces!
All we need to do is ASK, a lot of us like to complain, but never just sit before God and ask Him. We are sons and daughters of the almighty God (2 Corinthians 6:18) therefore we have access to Him.
It says in James 1: 5, "If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach and it will be given to him".
Wisdom affects every area of your life! When you open all areas of your life to God He can then direct and guide you in all areas of your life.
In proverbs 8:1 – Listen as wisdom calls out! Hear as understanding raises her voice.
So why don’t we listen?
1. Because of Foolishness
We think we know it all.
Proverbs 12: 15 Fools think their own way is right, but the wise LISTEN to others.
Ask God to remove all foolishness, and give you wisdom.
Similar to arrogance, making claims or pretensions to superior importance or rights; overbearingly assuming; insolently proud.
Proverbs 8:13 "To fear the Lord is to hate evil, therefore I hate pride and arrogance".
The question that needs to be asked is, do you fear the Lord? Because if you do you will remember that the gifts and all that is inside of you is put by him and is for him. However, if we don’t fear the Lord God almighty, we begin to rely on man power. When you rely on yourself, you tend not to really take heed of advice or instruction from others.
Ephesians 2:8-9 "For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God. Not by works, so that no one can boast".
When self comes into play, it imposes a feeling of embarrassment, and shame of being corrected. Mathew 16:24, Then Jesus said to his disciples, "Whoever wants to be my disciple must deny themselves and take up their cross and follow me”.
I want to end this Post with highlighting two types of people.
Wise learners (Proverbs)
Gladly accept instruction 10:8,23:12
Loves discipline 12:1
Listen to advice 12:15, 21:11, 24:6
Accepts parents discipline 13:1
Are on the pathway to life 10:17
Will be honoured 13:18
Profit from constructive criticism 15:31, 32; 29:1
Think they need no advice
Will go astray
End in poverty and disgrace
Harm themselves by refusing criticism.
Choose today to be a wise learner.
I pray that everyone who is reading this, The Holy Spirit will teach you His ways. I pray the Lord will touch and soften your heart, and open your ears to listen to His words.